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Ask the Attorney: How Can I Prepare for a Divorce Before I Tell My Spouse I Want One?

Divorce is a significant life event that can impact every aspect of your life, especially if you have children or significant assets. It is critical to approach it with careful planning and consideration. Before you even broach the subject with your spouse, taking certain steps can help you navigate the process more smoothly and protect your interests.

Orlando Family Team’s dedicated lead attorneys, Ophelia Bernal-Mora and Andrew Nickolaou, have seen firsthand how preparation can make all the difference in a divorce case.

Key Steps to Take Before Talking Divorce with Your Spouse

  1. Educate Yourself: Familiarize yourself with Florida’s divorce laws, especially regarding child custody, alimony, and property division. Understanding your rights and obligations will empower you to make informed decisions throughout the process.
  2. Gather Financial Documents: Start compiling financial documents, including tax returns, bank statements, investment accounts, mortgage documents, and any other relevant records. Having these documents organized will streamline the financial disclosure process during divorce proceedings.
  3. Assess Your Finances: Take stock of your individual and joint finances. Create a budget to understand your current financial situation and identify any potential challenges you may face post-divorce. Consider consulting with a financial advisor to help you plan for your financial future.
  4. Secure Your Assets: If you suspect that your spouse may try to hide or dissipate assets during the divorce process, take steps to protect your interests. Consider opening a separate bank account, safeguarding valuable assets, and documenting the current state of your marital property.
  5. Consider Your Living Arrangements: Start thinking about where you will live during and after the divorce. If you decide to move out of the marital home, consider the implications for custody arrangements and property division.
  6. Develop a Support Network: Divorce can be emotionally challenging, so it is essential to have a support system in place. Lean on friends, family members, or a therapist for emotional support during this difficult time.
  7. Think About Child Custody: If you have children, consider their well-being and how custody arrangements will impact them. Develop a parenting plan that prioritizes their needs and fosters a healthy co-parenting relationship with your soon-to-be ex-spouse.
  8. Consult with a Family Law Attorney: Before initiating the divorce process, schedule a consultation with a reputable family law attorney in Central Florida. An experienced attorney can provide personalized legal advice based on your specific circumstances and help you understand your options moving forward.
  9. Prepare for the Conversation: Once you’ve taken the necessary steps to prepare, carefully plan how and when you will tell your spouse that you want a divorce. Choose a neutral and private setting, and approach the conversation with empathy and respect.
  10. Stay Calm and Focused: Divorce can be emotionally charged, but it is important to remain calm and focused throughout the process. Keep your goals in mind and avoid engaging in unnecessary conflicts with your spouse.

Talk to Orlando Family Team in Central Florida Today

Taking proactive steps before initiating the divorce conversation with your spouse can set you up for a smoother and more manageable divorce process. Remember, preparation is key to protecting your interests and laying the groundwork for a successful transition to post-divorce life. Our comprehensive approach to divorce law sets us apart as leaders in family law in Central Florida. Get in touch with us today. We have offices in Orange, Osceola, and Seminole counties.

About the Author
Andrew Nickolaou, Esq., B.C.S., is a founding partner at Bernal-Mora & Nickolaou, P.A. He practices almost exclusively in divorce, marital and family law. Andrew and his partner, Ophelia Bernal-Mora, Esq., B.C.S., joined forces in March 2016 to form the unique and boutique husband and wife family law team at Bernal-Mora & Nickolaou, P.A. Together, Andrew and Ophelia take a practical and team-based approach to all of their cases and clients to deliver the highest quality experience and representation.