Don’t Let Divorce Ruin You

It’s natural to feel overwhelmed as you try to navigate your way through a divorce. It is also natural to let your emotions get in the way of logic. As you are going through your divorce, it’s important to remember that every decision you make has the potential for long-term impact. If you make a mistake or a poor decision, you could be paying for it after your divorce is final. Learn from the mistakes of others, and avoid these five things during your divorce.

1. Focusing on the Now

Many people going through a divorce focus on the now, rather than focusing on what life will look like a further down the road. First, it would be in your best interest to decide where you want to be after your divorce, and then take the necessary steps to make that happen. Talk with your attorney, discuss what you hope your life will be like a year or two down the line and make a plan together.

2. Becoming Too Emotional

Divorces are not easy, and you have every right to be sad, depressed or even angry. While you can certainly go through the grieving process— which goes hand-in-hand with a divorce— don’t make the mistake of letting your emotions rule your decisions. Try to think logically. If you can’t, trust your attorney to guide you through the divorce process.

3. Not Making Your Own Decisions

While you should certainly follow the guidance of your attorney, you shouldn’t do it blindly. Even the best attorney isn’t going to be with you once your divorce is final, and you will be the one living with your decisions. Listen to the opinions of others, but always do your own research and make the decisions that are right for you and your situation.

4. Staying Uneducated

The best way to learn about the divorce process is to do your own research. Don’t simply rely on what others tell you, especially if they only discuss their own divorce experience. Every divorce is different. Therefore, it is best to learn as much as you can on your own and apply it to your unique situation. Move forward, but educate yourself while you do. If you aren’t sure where to turn, speak to your attorney about what is available to you.

5. Not Staying Single

You surely won’t be single forever, so use the time after your divorce to heal and find yourself again. No matter what you think, you are not ready to start dating again right after you sign your divorce papers. An exact timeline does not exist, but you should definitely take at least some time for yourself once you have regained your single status. This will allow you to find out how to live on your own, before jumping in to an ill-advised relationship.

If you are considering filing for a divorce in Orlando, reach out to our team. We are here to assist you in any way we can. Your first consultation with our office will be held at no cost to you, and you are under no obligation to hire us once we speak.

About the Author
Andrew Nickolaou, Esq., B.C.S., is a founding partner at Bernal-Mora & Nickolaou, P.A. He practices almost exclusively in divorce, marital and family law. Andrew and his partner, Ophelia Bernal-Mora, Esq., B.C.S., joined forces in March 2016 to form the unique and boutique husband and wife family law team at Bernal-Mora & Nickolaou, P.A. Together, Andrew and Ophelia take a practical and team-based approach to all of their cases and clients to deliver the highest quality experience and representation.
Andrew Nickolaou

Andrew Nickolaou, Esq., B.C.S., is a founding partner at Bernal-Mora & Nickolaou, P.A. He practices almost exclusively in divorce, marital and family law. Andrew also handles record expungements and sealings. If you have questions about this article, contact Andrew today by clicking here.