What Questions Are Your Children Going to Ask About Your Divorce?

Going through a divorce can be an emotionally draining process. This is true even for the most amicable and straightforward divorce cases. It can represent a fundamental shift in your life that you may not even be fully prepared for. This all can be even more so true when there are children involved. Children have their own set of strong emotions that will come into play. They will most certainly have their own extensive list of questions to ask you. Some of these questions will be much tougher than others and you should prepare yourself accordingly.

What Questions Are Your Children Going to Ask About Your Divorce?

The specific questions your children will ask about your divorce will depend on a variety of factors including the age and maturity of the child as well as the specific circumstances surrounding the divorce. Most kids will probably end up asking you, at one point or another, why you are getting divorced. In fact, this may be the very first question that comes out of a child’s mouth when you deliver the news. It is important that you and your co-parent have answers prepared for questions like this, preferable answers that include not putting any blame on the children and avoiding or minimizing specific blame placed on one another.

Divorce is likely to be a big disruption to a child’s life. The child will likely have many logistical concerns as to how the divorce will impact things he or she cares about and what day to day and week to week life will look like. Some of these kinds of questions include:

  • Where will I live?
  • Will I have to move?
  • Will I go to the same school?
  • Where will you live?
  • Will I still be able to see my neighbors and friends?
  • Will I still be able to participate in my extracurricular activities?

The logistical questions can be difficult to deal with as you may not have answers to all of them and they can come in waves. Your child is looking for what will remain the same. Will he or she be able to keep on with things that are important to him or her? This is a great opportunity to put the child’s mind at ease with as many clear and set answers as you can.

Other questions may prove even more challenging to address. Explaining to a child the big complex emotions and issues that lead to divorce is a challenge. It can even be a challenge to explain these kinds of things to other adults. Be prepared for your child to ask why you are divorcing or why divorces happen.

Your child may even turn to you with a particularly heart-wrenching question by asking if he or she did anything wrong. Having your child feel at all responsible for a divorce can be a lot to handle. This is why it is critical that you make it clear to your child that parents divorce each other. They do not divorce their kids. The divorce is strictly between you and your co-parent.

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Divorce can be difficult under the best of scenarios and being a parent can be difficult under the best of circumstances. Combine these two things and you may feel quickly overwhelmed. Let the dedicated divorce attorneys at Orlando Family Team relieve you of some of the burdens you are carrying. We are here to provide you with support and trusted legal counsel throughout the process. Contact us today.

Andrew Nickolaou

Andrew Nickolaou, Esq., B.C.S., is a founding partner at Bernal-Mora & Nickolaou, P.A. He practices almost exclusively in divorce, marital and family law. Andrew also handles record expungements and sealings. If you have questions about this article, contact Andrew today by clicking here.